Unconditional Love of Self

I have seen far too many times than I’d like to recount the abuse and misuse we place upon ourselves. We can give love, attention and kindness to others but fail to give it to ourselves. Becoming unbalanced we drain ourselves and can’t seem to find any reasons as to why. Generational curses and religion bind us with thoughts of who we shouldbe and what needs to be done in order to be sinless. That sounds like pressure and God’s yoke is easyand burdens lightso what are we missing? The truth is this, to sin is to miss the mark of unconditional love, period. Unconditional love isn’t earned, it’s simply given. Yet, conditional love is how we’ve been taught to love others as well as ourselves. We all have done this so there isn’t any blame at all. We teach what we learn. It’s time that we retrain and teach in a different way. Do you agree?

To sin, means what exactly? How much do we really know? According to Wikipedia, sin is an act of transgression (sin, trespass, violation, wrongdoing) against divine or natural law. Sin can also be viewed as any thought or action that endangers the ideal relationship between an individual and God; or as any diversion from the perceived ideal order for human living. So, if sin is an act of transgression against divine or natural law – what is divine or natural law? Webster’s Dictionary stated natural law is: a body of law or a specific principle held to be derived from nature and binding upon human society in the absence of or in addition to positive law and divine definition is this: of, relating to, or proceeding directly from God. To miss the mark is to see division and inequity. To miss the mark means to judge according to the limited mental knowledge we consume. There is only one consciousness that knows all and sees all, the master of the Universe, God; only God can judge.  

What is the definition of love?  Biblically -1 Corinthians 13:4-7 New International Version (NIV) states:Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. And, according to Merriam Webster’s Dictionary, love: strong affection for another arising out of kinship or personal ties maternal love for a child. We claim love is unconditional, but all the conditions are artifacts we use, when giving love. Condition is all we seem to live by, all we seem to know. 

Do we love in an unconditional manner, or do we condemn and hate the unfavorable? The unfavorable can even be us, after all the worse condemnation is condemnation of self. We cannot change the world unless we first change ourselves. Changing the misconception requiresallto be healed, not just a few. We are here to learn that unconditionalis the only way to love. Limitless, pure potentiality at its best is love. Harming oneself and another by placing boundaries on the level of love being given, based on their circumstances and learnedbehavior; how is it that we claim to love in this way? 

To sin: is to notsee yourself and others how God perceives you, perfect. To be sinless: walk in acceptance and love. To be sinless: embrace who you are, flaws and all. To be sinless: avoidance of comparison; you are you, embrace, don’t reject that fact. To be sinless: is to see love in another, through the awareness in you

1 John 4:18 states: There is no fear in love, but perfect love casts out fear. For fear has to do with punishment, and whoever fears has not been perfected in love.When we are fearful or doubtful, we are not walking in love; but in disapproval of ourselves. This disapproval bleeds into our relationships, finances and so on. Fear wreaks havoc on our lives and will take over if we aren’t aware of what’s true for us. The bible states God’s people parish from lack of wisdom and this is because we have taken on the beliefs of the world as opposed to staying close to the spirit who lives in us. The mind is filled with hogwash from eons ago and we base our lives on the intelligence of our minds. When we do this, we turn away from our spirit. If we decide to live through our mental conditioned self (ego) instead of who we are internally (spirit) we become divided. Division leads to ruin. Ruin leads to death. 

We were not to become like the world but be lights of the world, by being transformed and renewed through the retraining of our minds. The bible instructs us to be diligent in retraining our minds to not adapt the societal divisions of the world. In Romans 12:2 we are told not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.We fear the unknown based on limiting beliefs of the world. This isn’t love. Fear and love cannot coexist. Fear harms, love heals and restores. Fear divides, love conquers all. Let me be clear, our way of doing things based on mental concepts or conditioning alone, will neverwork in leading us to our destiny. We must be present and aligned in order for limitless pure potentiality to flow within us. 

But how do we usually practice love? I don’t know about you but here’s what I see: Conditional love given when things go how we thinkthey should. Usually we love ourselves when our life is in order, just how we like it. Otherwise, we beat ourselves up, feel guilty and wonder what we are doing wrong. We compare ourselves and our lives to everyone else. We then push ourselves to go the extra mile, hoping someone would notice. Simply put, we look for gratification and love in others. We love our spouse when they take the time to give us the attention we crave; otherwise we complain and withdrawal, we might even be mean. We openly love and praise our children when they are making straight A’s and enjoying extra circular activities; otherwise we continuously let our disappointments be known; compare and punish for falling short of what we expect them to be. We are courteous and respectful to the CEO, nevertheless the Janitor can’t even get a hello. We praise the rich, look down on the poor. And finally, we walk around with fake smiles and shattered hearts, not knowing how to mend it at all. We have been hurt. We have become broken pieces of what love is supposed to be. Sounds like loving based on condition to me. 

How are we loving and complaining at the same time? We are not. How are we loving and angry at the same time? We are not. How are we loving, yet condemning, placing blame and pointing fingers? We are not. We are either choosing to love or we are feeding the conditioned picture of division and condemnation, which is simply serving the dysfunction of this world. Anything divided will not and cannot stand. If we are complaining based on falling short of the perfection, we think we should be living up to we aren’t loving ourselves; this is beating ourselves up unnecessarily. 

We are on a journey in this life and we will get to our destined place, if we know and practice the truth that sets us free. There isn’t any love in condemnation. To love is to be free. To love is to allow. To love is to grow. To love is to nurture. To love is to embrace the newness of what can be. To love is to love yourself and others exactly as we are, expressions of love. Love isn’t based on habituated illusions of what we think shouldbe.  

We know in order to receive, we must give first. If we aren’t giving love and acceptance to ourselves, how will we continue to grow? Voids that won’t go away is a sure sign that love needs to be replenished on the inside. If the love we see is limited to outside sources, does that mean love can only be conquered through something or someone else? Think about that for a second. The storm and the calm can only be felt first, within. So, in other words anything that rest outside of you can never fill the emptiness that’s felt within you. But on the contrary, once the emptiness has been filled on the inside, outside desires begin to come into fruition, automatically.  

Fall in love with the essence of life. Fall in love with the beauty in, through and around you. Begin to wake up and feel life, in totality again. Fall in love, in spite of. Make a choice to walk in love. Fall in love with the being that is, you. Far too many times than not, we see love and joy in everything but ourselves. But, how is this so? How can we see in others, what we refuse to see in ourselves? If in fact we areable to perceive greatness in others, doesn’t that mean, what we see in others, is also in ourselves. Love is unconditional. Love is you. 

 

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